Women Will Come *But Only After You Win.

Half of the people on this planet, 50% of all people alive, are females. So that woman you think is so special, that one you really want, she's so special? She ain't special, bro. She ain't special.

Get that out of your head straight away. She takes a sh*t in the morning like everyone else. So don't be trying too hard.

I'm not going to be the guy she can call and I'll always answer. She knows I got sh*t going on.

The Real Game: Focus on Yourself

I've never struggled with females because I never focused on the females.

These other game books and pickup artists and all these idiots talk about: "Get the woman. Get the woman. Get the woman."

Forget the woman. Forget all the chicks. Worry about yourself.

The Formula That Actually Works

Get yourself straight. And when your own way is straight, when you've got yourself together, females are an added bonus.

It's much easier to:

Focus on yourself
Get yourself high level
Then start getting females

Than it is to:

Forget about yourself
Spend all your time day game
Run around the mall doing a thousand approaches
Try to pick up random girls

All the game you've read before is garbage. If you go up to a thousand girls, you get five phone numbers and one might sleep with you. Yeah, I'm sure that's absolutely true.

Example: My friend spent 3 years reading pickup artist books, approaching girls at malls, spending money on "dating coaches." He got maybe 10 dates and zero relationships. I spent those same 3 years building my business and hitting the gym. Now women approach me, and he's still struggling.{alertsuccess}

So you're going to spend your life, instead of becoming rich, instead of becoming strong, instead of becoming smart, you're just going to run around a mall approaching girls? It's garbage for children.

I focused on myself. And that's how I've managed to attain the highest quality females. And also, not attain retain.

Don't Be Desperate

Don't be so desperate for a girl that you just lose all your honor and self-respect because then you're never going to get her. Ever.

Your competition is zero. They're just out:

Drinking
Watching sports
Distracting themselves on TikTok
Being losers

All you have to do is focus on yourself. Focus on yourself. You're going to win.

There's Nothing You Can't Do

There is nothing on the planet that you can't do. Even if you don't know how to do it, even if you're not prepared to go and learn how, even if for some reason you lack the motivation, the dedication, the discipline to knuckle down and get it done if you have a little bit of money and basic people skills, you can simply organize a team to do it for you.

There is nothing you cannot do if you have a little bit of money and people skills. That's all it is.

How the Elite Actually Win

Elon puts rockets in space by:

Walking around with his PayPal money
Finding people who know how to put rockets in space
Convincing them to work really hard

That's it.

So when people say, "I can't. I don't know how to. That's hard. I can't" that's just cope.

You don't need to know how. And of course you can. You just need to want to.

As soon as you want to do it, as soon as you actually care about getting it done, as soon as you assemble the team to complete the task, the sooner you finally knuckle down and dedicate yourself towards that objective, the sooner it gets finished.

Wanting vs. Actually Wanting

Everyone wants to win, but not everybody wants to win more than they want other things.

Wanting is easy. If I said to you, "Do you want to become a world-class figure skater?" You'd say, "Well, yeah, sure." There's no reason not to want that.

But here's the truth:

I want that
But I don't want it enough to go and train
I don't want it enough to fall over on the ice and hurt myself
I don't want it enough opposed to other things

Your Top 3-4 Wants Are All That Matter

Wanting something means nothing. We all want everything. It's how much you want it.

Really, want is a hierarchy. And only the top three or four wants matter. Everything else you want below that is insignificant because it's always going to play second fiddle.

My top wants are:

I want to be respected
I want to be in fantastic physical condition
I want to be very rich

If your want is to have fun, that's your prerogative. But you're going to lose out on a whole bunch of things because you're focused on having fun.

Example: Two guys at a concert. One paid $200 to stand there filming the DJ for 7 hours. The other is the DJ who got paid $50,000 to be there. First guy wanted fun. DJ wanted to be famous and make money. Who won?{alertsuccess}

You're going to end up in those videos you see on Instagram of people standing behind a DJ filming him, and then one song comes on after seven hours of dumb songs and they pretend their life matters.

You're a failure. The DJ is somebody. He got paid to go there. You paid to go there to film him. He wanted to be famous and make money more than you did. You wanted to have fun.

Do you understand the difference in the dynamic?

Make Your Choice

So you have to decide your top three or four wants. And it's hard because there's going to be things you cut out.

You might have to cut out that girl who wants all your time:

"Oh, you're boring. All you do is work."
"Let's go do this. Let's go do that."

Do you want her attention or do you want monumental success?

You Don't Need Fun

You don't need drugs. You don't need alcohol. You don't need parties or festivals. You don't need fun.

Fun is the vector from which Satan operates.

What Fun Actually Gets You

From "fun" you get:

No money to be made
You don't retire your mother
You don't help the world
You don't give to charity
You don't become stronger
You don't become wiser
You don't learn anything

Life's not about fun as a man. Life is about doing the right thing because it must be done.

You do not need fun until you've already reached the highest possible echelon.

What You Actually Need

So this whole idea that you need fun in your life? You don't.

What you need is:

Purpose
Discipline
Things to do which are going to benefit you and others around you
Obligations
Performance metrics

You don't need to be waking up thinking about fun. Let me ask you:

Are you important?
Does anybody know who you are?
Are you physically strong?
Are you financially wealthy?

If the answer to those is no, you have bigger concerns than "What are we going to do this weekend? We need to have some fun."

Really? Have you actually gone out there in the universe and made a mark large enough that you're allowed some time off to have some fun?

You don't deserve any fun. You don't need any fun. You have work to do.

Real Contentment Comes From Purpose

For a man, your contentment will come from:

Your purpose
Your competence
Succeeding at objectives
Completing difficult things that other people cannot complete

It will never come from the easily accessible hedonism which you have confused for fun.

The Elite Standard

If everybody can go to that concert, you shouldn't want to go.

The only fun I have is doing things I know you're not allowed to do.

But if you say to me, "Andrew, come to this party," and I say, "Well, who's there?" and you say "Everyone"if everyone's there, it's trash.

And the fact that you think that's fun shows that you have a severe mental deficiency.

You're only going to find actual fun through purpose. And you're only going to find purpose through exceptionalism.

So you need to become the best possible version of yourself in all realms.

Why You're Actually Unhappy

You're unhappy because you're trying to have fun instead of trying to become important.

You're never going to feel satisfied in your heart unless you become important.

Please imagine for a second:

You're the most googled man on the planet
Hundreds of millions of dollars
You're built like a tank

Imagine how you feel when you look in the mirror. Nothing can match that and nothing can beat that.

Time Is Your Ultimate Currency

I speak to people my age and I say, "In my 20s, I spent maybe 10,000 hours in the gym training. You're the same age as me. What did you do with those 10,000 hours?"

What did you do?

Watch TV?
Go out?
Sit around, nap?

And they can't even name what they did with any of their time. They're like, "Don't know."

Example: At 25, I had spent 10,000 hours training and building skills. My friend spent those same hours partying and playing video games. Now I'm in peak physical condition running multiple businesses. He's overweight, broke, and has nothing to show for a decade of his life.{alertsuccess}

So if you're 16, you need to be using every single waking minute towards things you're going to remember.

You're going to remember:

Training
Working hard
Trying to make money

Time is the ultimate currency. Time is money. You can turn it into anything. You can turn it into muscles if you go to the gym.

But people have all this time and they just mush around with it. And then they're like, "Oh, I don't know why I'm failing. I wish I was successful."

Happiness Is in the Struggle

How do you find happiness? Happiness is in struggle.

The struggle and the size of the struggle you're facing, along with how important it is and how important you feel it is deep in your heart, is directly correlated to how successful and how happy you're going to feel all of the time.

Solving those problems leads to a positive place. Once you become addicted to it, you're going to become a machine of monumental achievement.

What You Actually Need

There are some very simple basic things you can do:

Weight training
Chess
Trying your very best to take care of your mother, retire her

You need goals and resistance and something to fight against to live well.

If you only have joy all of the time and no pain, you are not going to be happy.

You must earn happiness. You must climb a mountain. You must struggle yourself to happiness.

There must be:

Physical struggle
Mental struggle
Social struggle
Some kind of spiritual struggle

And those things being satisfied is what's going to satisfy you.

The only other alternative to that to feel good is hedonism. And that's not going to satisfy you for very long. And it's also going to destroy your life.

Start With Your Body

You need to pick the low-hanging fruit first. And the starting block to all of these things is your body.

Get stronger. Get bigger muscles.

It's a fast track to self-discipline which will carry over into all other endeavors.

In fact, how many people can say the gym saved their life?

I actually find it amazing that there's people out there who aren't in perfect physical condition.

The Power of Looking Intimidating

Guys, let me tell you a news flash. If you eat right and you train hard, you look good.

So why don't you all look like superheroes? Do you not understand how intimidating that is? Just when they look at a group of people and they all look like superheroes and they can tell they're all disciplined, all dedicated, all physically strong.

The struggle is what's beautiful about it.

Your objectives:

Become as strong as physically possible
Try and make as much money as possible

Not even necessarily for the money (although money is extremely important), but there's a challenge involved. And solving that challenge is going to make you feel more satisfied as a human.

Happiness comes from success. And making money is success.

Money Isn't for You It's for the People You Love

You know, I'm fine with economy. I don't give a f*ck. I'm a full-grown man. I'll go and sit on an economy flight for 22 hours to Sydney, Australia from LA. Doesn't matter to me.

Am I on a $200,000 private jet? Well, does that make me happy? Not really.

What Actually Makes Me Happy

You know what does make me happy?

Makes me happy that I can put the woman I love on a private jet
Makes me happy that if I want to see my children, I can put them on a private jet so they turn up quickly enough for me to spend a single hour with them
I can spend $200,000 to get an hour with my kids because a jet is faster than sitting around at an airport with a bunch of broke people

It matters to me that if my mother has a heart attack, I can afford the best surgeon on the planet.

What matters to me is I can actually take care of the people I love.

I don't give a f*ck about having money. I'll go back to living in a single room with my brother sleeping on the floor like we did when we were broke. I don't care.

What I do care about is that I finally have money to be useful to the people I love. Because when I was broke, I wasn't very useful to people. I would see the people I care about struggling.

The Real Reason You Need Money

I'll go to economy, no problem. But I don't want the woman I love sitting in economy with a bunch of peasants.

I don't want the woman I love:

Going to work
Having a male boss
Having a bunch of male colleagues trying to flirt with her all day

Because I can't afford to retire her, and I'm going to sit there and go, "Oh, well, I don't have enough money so I guess she just needs to work."

Well, you're just going to accept that because you're not going to try because you're not motivated because you're not dedicated.

Example: My friend makes $50K a year and complains about his girlfriend working with other men. I make millions and my woman doesn't have to work, doesn't have to take the bus, doesn't have to deal with any of that. Same concern. Different levels of action.{alertsuccess}

Having Money as a Man

Having money as a man is actually nothing to do with yourself.

If you're smart enough to make money as a man, you're probably stoic enough to not give a f*ck:

I don't give a f*ck about diamond watches
I don't care about cars
I don't care about private jets
I don't care about a big nice house

I will go back to bug level, back to the dirt, living in a fight gym like I used to. I don't care.

But what I do care about is being so monumentally incompetent that the people I love and the people who rely on me can't get what they need from me or I have to expose them to dangers.

The Ultimate Responsibility

Well, my woman has to get the bus. What happens when she gets raped? What happens when something happens to her? What am I going to say? "Oh, but I still love you."

Clearly not very much because I didn't love her enough to dedicate myself to get rich to prevent her from getting gang-raped on a street corner.

So what does my love even matter?

Poor men's love, useless men's love, incompetent men's love means nothing.

It doesn't matter how much you love a woman, doesn't matter how much you love your children if you can't:

Help them
Provide for them
Protect them
Take care of them

You're Either Useful or You're Useless

If you're going to wake up every day as a man and lack dedication and motivation to get rich because you don't have enough fire inside of your heart to be dedicated towards taking care of the people you love, then you're probably a piece of damn person.

I'm at the point now when some man goes, "Oh, I'd love to get rich, but I'm struggling with motivation," I look at him like he's scum.

The Two Types of Men

You're either:

A useless loser

The kind of person who's going to do anything it takes to win because you understand you have obligations as a man

You are obligated to protect. You can't not be able to fight. You have a job.

You can't not afford things. You have a job to do.

And it is for that reason you need to get rich. Not for yourself, for everybody else.

When You Finally Win

And you will see how much better life is when people look at you with respect for the first time in your life.

When:

Women look at you with a different look in their eyes, when they finally respect you
Men, important men, meet you and they finally respect you
Your family is finally proud of you

And all of that happens when you dedicate yourself to something. When you finally start to make more money than anyone else in your family can even fathom, that is when you're going to feel happy and that is when you're going to matter.

Your Job as a Man

It's truthfully your job as a man. It has been bestowed upon us by the universe, by the cosmos since the dawn of human time to wake up, dedicate ourselves, and become capable.

It's not for you to be able to fly on private jets across the Atlantic and smoke a fat cigar. That's not why you need to make money.

You need to make money so that you finally are useful to the people who care about you and who you care about.

The Year Is Almost Over

The year is almost over. I remember you said this year was going to be your year.

We all know you wasted it.

Your Primary Objectives

But those are your primary objectives:

Your objectives are:

Get rich so other people have to pay you their money because you own all the assets
Stay out of jail

Your objectives are NOT:

Simping for girls
Messaging women on Instagram who ignore you
Being happy
Sitting around crying or being depressed about something
Being sad

Those are your primary objectives. If you don't do that, you lose.

Do you understand?

FAQ: Your Questions Answered

Q: Should I really ignore women completely?

Not ignore deprioritize. Women should be a bonus, not your main focus. Build yourself first. When you're successful, strong, and wealthy, quality women will naturally be attracted to you. Chasing women while you're broke and weak is a waste of time.

Q: What if I'm already in my 30s and haven't focused on myself?

Start now. Better late than never. You've wasted enough time. Every day you delay is another day lost. Stop making excuses and start building today.

Q: How do I stop wanting "fun" and start wanting success?

Reprogram your brain. Realize that "fun" gives you nothing lasting no money, no strength, no respect, no legacy. Success gives you everything. Make yourself want success more than you want temporary pleasure.

Q: What if I don't know how to make money?

You don't need to know everything. Start learning a valuable skill. Sales, marketing, coding, trading, real estate. Or find people who know how and organize a team. With basic people skills and a little money, you can make anything happen.

Q: Is it wrong to want nice things for myself?

No, but that's not why you should get rich. Get rich so you can protect and provide for the people you love. The nice things are just a side effect. If you're only doing it for yourself, you won't have the fire to push through when it gets hard.

Q: What if people call me boring or obsessed with work?

Good. Let them. They're broke, weak, and going nowhere. You're building an empire. Their opinion doesn't matter. The people who matter will respect you when you win.

Q: How long does it take to get rich?

Depends on how hard you work and how smart you are. Could be 3 years, could be 10. But if you don't start, it'll never happen. Stop asking "how long" and start asking "what do I do today?"

Q: What if I fail?

Then you try again. Failure is part of the process. Every successful person has failed multiple times. The only real failure is giving up or never trying at all.

Q: Can I still have a girlfriend while building my business?

Yes, but she better understand you're building something. If she's constantly demanding your time and distracting you from your purpose, she's not the right woman. Find a woman who supports your mission or stay single until you've built your empire.

Q: What's the first step I should take today?

Pick one: Join a gym and start training today. Find a way to make extra money this week. Cut out one time-wasting habit (video games, excessive social media, partying). Do something TODAY that moves you forward.

Stop reading. Stop planning. Stop making excuses.

Your objectives are clear:

Get rich
Get strong
Stay out of jail

Everything else is distraction.

Now go do the work.